White Trasherati

Isn’t there a reason it’s called a “game”?
November 12, 2009, 9:41 pm
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My 5th grader came home dejected today.  Basketball is being played in P.E. now, and he got picked near last and some kidwhoneedshisasskicked commented, “Oh, man!  Not you!  Now we’re gonna’ LOSE!” as mine approached the team.

I don’t know how it is in the rest of the world, but in this rural county sports rule everything.  Athletics are the center of activitiy, aside from the church, and though in my observation they aren’t coached very well, by god, they are coached to WIN.  Even the littlest kids don’t focus on playing, but on winning.

I don’t want my kids to focus on competition at this point in their lives.  I’m a firm believer that children learn athletic skills through play – good old enjoyable play.  Joke around with each other while you’re tossing the basketball.  Debate the rules while you try to play baseball with 5 kids in the yard.  Play football as an excuse to chase the person you have a crush on around the field.

This isn’t the first time that he’s come home upset about the focus on competition.  And while he acknowledges that there are areas where he is super talented, he also knows that those aren’t talents that are valued (right now) in his community of peers.

I am ill-equipped to deal with this particular situation – I was a reader as a child, not a hugely competitive arena.  And a part of me is a guilty parent, because honestly?  I could give a shit about sports, or how my boys do in them.  Whatever they love to be a part of, I’ll support all day long.  But he doesn’t really dig sports to start with, so this all boils down to his friends not appreciating a diverse range of talents.

Yeah, that’s it – I’ll blame the 11 year-olds.  That’s helpful.  Any advice out there?


October 29, 2009, 5:28 pm
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I just don’t get how this took ten years.

Oh, wait – yes, I do.

Yeah. What he said.
June 3, 2009, 5:35 pm
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I felt this was worth noting.  Good on him, but I’d also love to hear from Roslyn about her take on leaving.